Issue No. 9 // Let It Go

“Man surprised me most about humanity. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived."

- The Dalai Lama


Hello, hello,

At the risk of getting a little too “woowoo” this week … In last week’s issue,  I shared an interview with Oprah in which she describes her philosophy around manifesting things that she wants in her life: when she really wants something she focuses on it intensely, visualizes it, and wants it from a place of real truth (for her). And then, she lets it go. It’s not until she lets it go that the thing she deeply wants shows up in her life.

This process of wanting something, envisioning and embodying it in detail, and then letting it go is something that I’ve found true in my own life as well, and of which my exploration of the principles of Psycho-Cybernetics, various life coaching methods, and even those present in The Alchemist supports.

Essentially, this is luck (or whatever you call it) favoring the prepared mind—you do have to do the work but you also have to let the Universe, and your creative mechanism, do their thing without interference.

This is all leading somewhere, I promise: One week ago today, after two unsuccessful real estate offers that escalated beyond what we could do, we had an offer accepted on the perfect house (for us) in this crazy, multi-offer Seattle market. How exactly, I will never know. But what I do know is this: It was only when I finally let go of wanting a house, trusted that I had given the search and the offer my best shot, felt that I had done it in a way that I will continue to feel good about, and accepted that we would be absolutely fine if it didn’t work out that the Universe delivered.

This has also been true in meeting my soulmate, getting a raise, opportunities for adventures, taking a sabbatical and so many other things. 

Ok, definitely, “woowoo,” but also true.

Tavaner


The Edit

  1. Has the internet and our over-connectedness made us less innovative? Author Neal Stephenson argues possibly so. (Disclosure: Written seven years ago but very relevant.)

  2. Emory, our pup, has always been excited for her next meal but with Ollie(fresh food for dogs—I know, I know) that excitement is next level. Start here for three ways to improve your pet’s (or let’s just be honest—fur baby’s) diet.

  3. What the “Hollywood Model” can teach us about the future of work.

  4. If you thought everything possible had been done with skincare, you thought wrong: Drunk Elephant developed a whole new category, “clean clinical.” And if my skin is any indication, it works. (I started with The Littles.)

  5. I find myself increasingly numb to the politics, tragedies, one-thing-after-another happenings that we witness on a daily basis, which is exactly what I don’t want to happen. Junot Diaz’s New Yorker essay from November 2016, on how radical hope is our best weapon, reminded me of the importance of resisting this numbness. 

  6. Turning to Remodelista: The Organized Home for my nighttime reading. Better living through fewer things and smart organization (sans plastic)? Sold.

  7. No big surprise, but it turns out that we’re really not all that different. Find out how the rest of the world lives. 

  8. Just because: Stephen Colbert sings “Sleep Through the Static” along with Jack Jackson.